We have a one-year old infant who is going through a sleep regression. As my wife and I discussed how we might approach sleep training, it occurred to me that choosing a strategy has a lot in common with model selection: even when all the options are bad, you still need to choose one of them.

Should we follow the books and just let him cry alone for an hour? But then he’ll probably cry so hard he pukes. Should we just not worry and rock him to sleep? But then we’ll be spending our evenings doing that until he’s 16. Should we go in and pick him up but not rock him? Setting him down again seems to be extra hard on him. Should we not pick him up but lay there so we at least haven’t left the room? That probably won’t satisfy anyone, and we still have to spend our evenings laying on the floor in the dark for the forseeable future.

None of these options are good. The problem is that there is no option to do nothing, and we have to choose the least bad one.

This is precisely analogous with statistical model selection. Suppose we have a set of models, , and we want to know which one generated some data under a likelihood . Given a prior probability of each model, Bayes’ rule then says that the most likely model is the one with the highest

When all of our models are totally lousy — when is infinitesimal for all — by choosing the largest we will still have high (no less than ) posterior probability of being correct, because we normalize by when calculating .

When thinking about sleep training (or, heaven forid, far more difficult decisions with our baby), it can be tempting to think you have to choose a good option when there are no good options. This perspective can make you feel trapped, like there is no way to do right by your baby. But by remembering the denominator might help you bear in mind that even the best bad thing is still good from a decision theory perspective.

This whole scenario has an analogy to a classical Bayesian objection to using naive frequentist hypothesis tests for model selection. Suppose I asked only: “Should we let him cry alone for an hour?” Let correspond to this sleep training strategy. We find that the answer to this question is “then he’ll probably cry so hard he pukes”, in other words, that is very small, and reject this strategy. The problem, of course, is that we didn’t consider any of the alternatives before rejecting, and that we would reject every strategy when considered in isolation this way.